Why do people fight?
Who can’t people get along?
And why don’t we add this: especially in the church?
James has a profound answer: “You fight because of the desires at war within you.”
I’ve found this to be very true from my own experience. Let me explain what I mean. I often find myself in quarrels and tension because I am desiring something that the person cannot give me.
A common temptation to quarrel is when someone has become critical of myself or my ministry — be it constructive or otherwise. My temptation is to fight or become defensive. Why? Because I desire that everyone accept me and the ministry I lead as a reflection of myself.
I only get upset because I desire something only God can give me, but I’m not getting it from Him.
“You desire but you do not have, so you kill… You do not have because you do not ask God” James says.
Are we fighting because we’re asking others to give us something that only God can give; and we’re becoming so disappointed when we’re not getting it!
Try this, ask God for what you need.
Don’t become entitled and feel the need to fight for what you need or want. Trust God to give it to you when you seek him.
James famously says it like this: Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.
Stop fighting. It’s a reflection of your desires at war within you. Instead of the desire war, bring your desires to God and let Him meet them in the ways He wants to.